Do You Wish You Had Another Man You Could Talk To About The Issues That Keep You Stuck?
Are you a man who feels stuck in the same unhealthy patterns again and again? Has the pain of the past made it difficult to live in the present? Do you struggle to regulate your emotions and stay grounded during stressful times?
Maybe you’re dealing with strained relationships, work troubles, mood swings, or health issues. You may be suffering from anxiety, depression, or even racism and oppression. Perhaps you feel numb and disconnected from your feelings and your struggles have made you push down your pain and ignore it.
On the other hand, maybe you’re going through some major life transitions and you wish you had more support. Perhaps you’ve become a new father and the transition into parenting isn’t as smooth as you imagined. Old emotional wounds may have resurfaced as you grapple with this new reality. Maybe you find it hard to connect with your partner or your new baby and can’t figure out where you fit in this new chapter of life.
In life coaching for men, you have a chance to walk side by side with someone who cares for you deeply and can give you the tools to manage your challenges. With my help, I am confident that you can achieve a healthier perspective, navigate stressful transitions, and find stillness wherever you are in life.
"Strength doesn’t come from what you can do. It comes from overcoming the things you thought you once couldn’t."
- Rikki Rogers
Our Culture Encourages Men To Push Their Feelings Down
The US Department of Veteran’s Affairs reports that 60-percent of men have experienced a traumatic event in their lives. All men experience grief and loss and go through periods where they feel stuck and unmotivated. Unfortunately, our culture often encourages men to suppress their feelings and put on a façade of strength. As a result, many men never come forward about their issues and suffer in silence.
What’s more, it’s normal for men to struggle with the transition into fatherhood. Most men aren’t taught how to be good caretakers, which leaves them feeling out of place in the parenting role. Many of them don’t know what to do with all the complicated emotions that come with being a father.
Men may also feel isolated when grappling with work transitions and trying to figure out what’s next in life. Many of them wrestle with unprocessed grief from generational trauma and various kinds of losses—loss of jobs, loss of relationships, loss of dreams and loss of loved ones.
Trauma Is A Bad Word In Many Circles
As a Black man in America, the word “trauma” was not a word I heard or knew when I was growing up. You didn’t talk about sadness, depression, anxiety, or even feelings of general. The message I always heard was “If you show vulnerability, you’ll be in danger and you’ll be targeted.” So I kept all my feelings to myself. Eventually I realized that this way of life was unhealthy. After all, the main thing holding me (and many other men) back from sharing my emotions was fear: fear of being seen as weak and fear of being too much or not enough.
Fear is immobilizing and can keep you from seeking support. That’s why I offer life coaching for men. In my practice today, I aim to help men reconnect with their emotions and understand how trauma surfaces and affects the body. I will teach you how to reverse the effects of trauma, allowing you to be more centered as you go forward in life. With this empowering knowledge, you can change the way you live in your body and mind.
Life Coaching Can Help You Reconnect With Your Feelings And Take Back Your Power
Sometimes, the most important step in moving forward is being able to name the emotions and sensations that interfere with everyday life. After all, awareness is the key to all growth. As a trauma-informed life coach, I want to help you identify how your trauma reactions show up in your nervous system and pay attention to what your body is telling you. The goal is to help you deepen your vocabulary around the body and reconnect with feelings that you may have suppressed.
Above all, life coaching provides a safe space to be vulnerable and share your joys and sorrows without any fear of judgment. What’s more, life coaching is skills-based—while therapy tends to focus on the problem, coaching looks at the solution. It’s non-pathologizing and focused on things you can do to regulate stress and improve relationships. My program provides three different types of coaching, each of which are outlined below.
It’s easy to live life reactively and never think about the way you respond to stress. Mindfulness can help you slow down and shift out of autopilot, giving you more control over your reactions. The goal of mindfulness coaching is to help you stop living in the past and awaken to the here and now, finding peace no matter what’s going on in life. This can be done through breathwork, meditation, or spending time in nature.
"You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream."
- C.S. Lewis
Trauma And Resiliency Coaching
Trauma-informed life coaching can help you identify stuck places, educate you on why your body and mind react the way they do, and shift your reactions in a way that feels positive and empowering. I’ll also help you learn what it means to be resilient. Unlike ordinary talk therapy, coaching doesn’t dwell as heavily on your traumatic experience itself. Instead, it focuses on the reasons your body and mind react the way they do. I also concentrate on practical skills for managing your trauma reactions. The goal is to help you reconnect with your feelings, build on your strengths, and improve your emotional regulation.
Health And Wellness Coaching
If you want to focus on exercising, eating right, and creating room for movement, I encourage you to pursue health and wellness coaching. I can be your biggest cheerleader and guide you through the process of managing your weight and fulfilling your dietary goals. This is also a chance to get creative and explore new outlets for relief through movement, whether that means yoga, running, gardening, weightlifting, or any form of movement that’s meaningful to you. I have been a health-and-wellness coach since 2006.
No matter what type of coaching you choose, I am confident that I can help you access your inner confidence and use it as momentum to achieve your goals. In my time as a men’s life coach, I’ve helped many clients heal from trauma and take back their power. I want to do the same for you.
You May Have Some Questions About Life Coaching…
I don’t want to be seen as weak for seeking help.
- I’ve been where you are before and I’ve worried about the same thing. Sadly, handling stressors in a vacuum will not make them go away. Life coaching can help you put aside harmful cultural messages and take care of yourself in ways that you haven’t before. I believe that true strength is found in vulnerability and I am confident that you will come to see that for yourself.
I’ve always been told to push my feelings down and ignore them.
Talking about feelings was not the norm in my culture. I struggled to find my way as a result. Thankfully, we now know more about the importance of health and wellness than we ever did. An emotional wound is like a physical wound-it only gets worse if you ignore it. Life coaching can help you access feelings that you may have suppressed and form a deeper relationship with yourself.
I don’t know if I have the time or money to do life coaching.
- I understand that you’re busy and that’s why you get to set the pace for coaching. I offer a customizable approach with multiple options for meeting. Depending on what’s easiest for you, we can meet at my space, your space, or even out in nature. I can do traditional or intensive sessions and can offer several full-day sessions in a row. There’s even an option for K-9 assisted coaching.
Let Me Help You Achieve Wellness In Your Mind, Body, And Spirit
If you’re a man who’s looking to improve in every area of your life, I am confident that my holistic approach to life coaching can help you.
Are traditional or intensive sessions right for you?
- Weekly sessions work best if you want to take coaching slowly.
- They make it easy to spread out the cost of treatment.
- Sometimes it’s hard to pack everything into a traditional-length session. When you account for all the time it takes to check in at the beginning of a session and then close out at the end, there’s often not enough time to cover all the bases in between.
- If your emotional pain keeps you from working through barriers and achieving your goals, seeing me for just one hour once a week could mean it takes longer to work through your issues.
- Committing to the same time in your schedule each week may be hard, especially if you have kids or travel a lot.
- I will keep track of your weekly needs and how you’d like to use your time. If new challenges arise in the meantime, we can focus on them as well as your original goals.
- At the end of each session, we will “check in” to make sure you are not stressed out and can leave the session feeling confident and at peace.
- Your schedule is exceptionally busy, making it hard to commit to coaching on a regular basis.
- Past trauma or other challenges are impacting your life too heavily to try and work through them over a long period of time.
- Intensives offer longer, more frequent coaching sessions over a shorter timespan, allowing you to speed up your achievement of desired goals.
- Intensive sessions can help you move forward faster than you can with weekly sessions, since you’re packing lots of deeper work into half-day, full-day, or three-day sessions.
- You can resolve pressing issues in one or two sessions rather than taking a bits-and-pieces approach.
- You can save both money and time.
- An intensive retreat may be more convenient if you’re busy, have kids, or travel a lot.
- Some people simply prefer the consistency of traditional sessions to intensive ones.
- For some, multiple days of intensive work might be overwhelming, which is why you’ll have a customized plan to meet your individual needs.
- We have lots of options for intensives, since we cater them to our clients’ needs. During the intake session, we’ll come up with a treatment plan that works for you.
- After each two-hour period of intensive work, there will be a 15-minute break.
- Our practice often explores trauma informed yoga, qi gong, and other body-based methods of relief. If you choose half-day, full-day, or multi-day options, we’ll give you an idea of what to expect in sessions.